The human behaviour behind the work. Decision-making, attention, identity, performance, and the everyday observations that explain how people live and work inside the technology economy.
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After years of being praised for my kindness, I discovered I'd been saving all my patience for strangers while bringing home an empty, irritable shell of myself to the people who actually loved me.
The loneliness that arrives in your mid-thirties doesn't announce itself — it just quietly replaces every friendship you thought was permanent with a transactional exchange you barely noticed forming.
A lot of us are world-class life-changers.
Something peculiar happens to friendships in the mid-to-late thirties.
Compulsive tidiness is one of the most misread behaviours in adult life. For many, the drive to keep an impossibly clean home started as the only form of agency available to a child living in chaos, and the pattern never stopped running.
People who go quiet during conflict aren't always giving you the silent treatment. Many learned in childhood that their anger wasn't safe to express, and silence became the only container strong enough to hold it without consequences.
For a long stretch of my late twenties, I had a list.
The instinct to treat a small social circle as evidence of a social problem is understandable.
Most people assume loneliness is straightforwardly about being alone too much.
Most people, when something good happens, simply experience it.
There is a particular kind of tiredness that people-pleasers know well.
There is a type of person who, when something genuinely painful happens, makes a joke about it.
